Redefining Marriage

I wasn’t sure I’d ever get married again. If not forever, then what was the point? Maybe I felt like I didn’t deserve to be married again, or maybe I was just terrified I would fail at it. I’m not sure, but what I’ve come to learn these past 4 years is that forever, though always the intention, was not and is not the point of marriage. Just because it didn’t last forever does not invalidate all the years it did matter. The lessons learned, the time paid, the love shared, the memories made. The point of marriage is to share your life with the person you choose. To be a family together, and to learn from and support each other as much as you possibly can without losing yourself. Marriage is a choice to make every day, not a promise for forever on one. Everyday you choose each other is a successful day and significant marriage, regardless if it lasts or not.

Today, Aaron, I choose you, and I hope with everything I have that we continue to choose each other… forever.

We got married on a cliff in the Gorge, had a sunset picnic, danced to an iPad slow song, and laid on a blanket together and watched the stars appear. It was every kind of lovely I can imagine.

Thank you to the incredibly giving and loving friends in our life for making our wedding so beautiful and special to us.

My talented friend Karina made my dress for me out of old curtains she bought at the Goodwill for $4.

Our incredibly gifted friend Bailey made our beautiful flowers out of locally foraged plants.

My sweet, sweet amazingly crafty and talented sister Mindy, armed with her hot glue gun, made the gorgeous flower sash for Holly’s flower girl dress.

Our friend and my soul-sister Yasmin got her license and stood as our witness to marry us with her lovely words.

And of course, one of our most favorite photographers and friend Jay Eads captured our memories for us so beautifully. These photos kill me. They mean so much. I am so happy to hold these images that embody the love and happiness I felt on that day and I can’t wait to look at them as a family years from now. I’m so grateful for Jay’s talent. Wedding photographers really do have such an important job.

Thank you all for the support and love we’ve felt coming our way. Mwah. Love rules.

Here are my favorites from Mr. Jay Eads:

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9 comments

  1. Ulli says:

    These are so so stunning. The love just jumps out of these photos. Beautiful :) The cake cutting photo? So so so sweet. :)

  2. Josh says:

    If anyone deserved a moment and a lifetime like this it’s you Ashley. It’s really wonderful to see you so happy.

  3. Ara says:

    Ashley, I am SO HAPPY reading this. You and Aaron had such a beautiful, personal wedding and the photos just blow me away. Hugs and love to both of you and the kids. :)

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